How To Avoid The Social Media Police And Build Your Brand

The social media police are out there, so you need to know your rights to build your brand. You have the right to remain silent and everything you say can and will be used against you. Yea, kind of like real life.

A lot of people really fear the social media police due to the way they patrol the internet. It would be great to say that social media police don’t have any real powers, but that wouldn’t be entirely true.

Luckily, the social media police only tend to have as much as power as you give them. So don’t give them power to affect how you build your brand.

I want to make a disclaimer here, so you must know that I’m not a social worker. I am also not a doctor or anyone with a lot of degrees revolving around social work. Now, I have spent plenty of time talking to therapists, but my profession is social media marketing. Spending as much time as I do on social media does help one better see patterns in people though.

Therefore, it makes sense to take this article with a little grain of salt.  The goal is to get people to think about how to discern what criticism is constructive while also identifying the malarkey.

It doesn’t take a genius or a degree to know wasting time on malarkey costs money. Avoiding the malarkey will help you save a lot of time and energy so you can focus more on your goals.

Who are the social media police?

One of the best ways to avoid issues with the social media police is knowing how to identify them. Social media police differ from the real police due to the way they don’t really protect or serve anyone. They act like more like any abuser does so you can save time, hassle and pain by being aware of their tactics.

Tactics of social media police to watch out for

  1. Gaslighting- 

    The term describes the act of manipulating events to make someone question their own thoughts or perceptions. Gaslighting is also really great for social media scam artists. It is easy to spot at first if you’re paying attention so make sure you do. The act of gaslighting starts with telling or condoning blatant lies. Lies set a precedent, so pay attention to how truthful someone really is.

    If a person gets away with telling you a lie they know they can tell a bigger one later. If they know you know they lie, but you play along you become a target. There are many different ways to go about gaslighting someone, but the goal is always the same. Trust your gut and the things you know you know.

  2. Lovebombing- 

    Lovebombing on social media is pretty easy to fall for due to the way we all need social media love to thrive. People that like and comment on everything you post no matter what may be lovebombing you online. The abusive pattern starts when the person starts to invite you into drama or gets mad about your engagement with others.

    People that give you a lot of social media love are awesome, but it is important to be mindful here too. Some people will give you a ton of social media love only to invite you into conflicts with others. Lovebombers may also threaten to withhold the support if you don’t do x, y or z.  Lovebombers will use you to build their brand only to move onto the next person that can help them better later. Appreciate all the love you get, but be wary of people that demand more than a simple win-win mindset.

  3. Benching- 

    Your social media tribe is like a roster on any sports team due to the group mentality. No matter who you are there is only so much time in a day. Some people have built millions of followers by treating their followers like people on a sports team. It is an approach that makes a lot of sense in a lot of ways. You need to take care of your best players to put the best team on the field.

    Don’t waste a lot of time trying to make someone else’s starting rotation. It’s always best to focus on your team and decide who is on the field playing for you. A great online networker will be on a handful of teams at any time. A bad online networker only works on their team and focusing on how much their team scores. People that make money online don’t tend to spend a lot of time sucking up to anyone to get off the bench. Join a team that teaches how to be the coach like the SPN social media groups. 🙂

  4. Ghosting-

    This one is a little trickier due to the anonymity behind social media and the crazy people that dwell on it. Ghosting a random social media follower that gives you the creeps is one thing. However, someone that you have gotten to know a bit deserves more. If someone is irking you for whatever reason, then you owe it to yourself and them to air the issue. Experience has taught me most misunderstandings or things people do to irk you are truly unintentional.

    Most people really want to do good and spread positive vibes. It is important to remember that how you treat people online is a reflection of your character. No one likes to be ghosted, so avoid ghosting people unless you have reason to fear for your safety. Safety is always first, but following the Golden Rule should also always be on your list of things to do.

    Don’t worry about how you build your brand as much as you worry about how you make people feel. Telling someone your boundaries and letting them know they are pushing them is the proper way to go.

  5. Gossip

    One of the best ways to spot someone working for the social media police is watching out for gossip. Those that gossip to you will gossip about you, so be mindful of those in the gossip circles. It is also important to hear what people are up to, but there is a line between spreading need-to-know info and partaking in gossip. Gossip can kill your brand in many ways. Those that gossip tend to do the other social media police activity too, so be alert. Misery loves company and so do haters. Successful people don’t waste a lot of time with gossip. They’re too busy reading blogs with topics like how to build your brand better.

Final thoughts on the social media police and how to build your brand

The internet is a sea of information full of life and creatures of all kinds. Learning how to navigate through the social media channels can lead someone to a great life. Making a passive income on the internet is tough to beat, so the lure is always there. There is also plenty of danger and things that will get you to float off course.

Don’t let anyone that is acting as the social media police to chart your path. Plot your own course and set sail as you see fit, so you can truly be captain of your own ship. Build your brand and social media tribe like a captain builds the ship and crew, so you feel comfortable at sea in calm waters or hurricane like activity.

History remembers the bold captains that went where no else did. The ones that treated people right along the way sure have a better legacy.

Michael (mike) O'Connor

About Michael (Mike) O’Connor

Mike is the creator of the Service Professionals Network social media project. Mike is also a content writer for 2nd Chance Water Restoration and a marketing partner for Monat. Please feel free to contact mike anytime.

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How to Make LinkedIn Work for Your Business

LinkedIn is a social media site, so for a lot of people, it’s just a place where they go, create a profile and move on. If you do something like that you are losing quite a lot of benefits, as LinkedIn is very powerful and with the right approach it can help you quite a bit.

It can offer you visibility and it will also make it easy to create a business connection. As you know, networking is very important for any business, and LinkedIn allows you to achieve that online. Not only that, but it also makes it easier to maintain a connection with the people you already met. So yes, it makes a lot of sense to use it for your company. But how can you make it work for your business?

Include photos and videos on your LinkedIn profile

If you really want to make LinkedIn work for your business, a good idea is to create a very good profile. Make it shine and stand out in front of the others. What this means is that you need to add videos and photos the best way that you can. In this situation, you want to add multimedia content that’s super important for your business as a whole. As long as you include such content in your profile, it will be easier for people to browse it but also connect with you. The process of adding videos and images is very simple, and the best part is that everything is adaptable.

Create content that’s informative and valuable

LinkedIn also allows you to write content, and that can be super important for your business. You can start by updating the status often and show people that they can indeed get lots of good information from you. It’s a good idea to create some posts that showcase your knowledge regarding this sector too. making it unique and distinct is super important, and it’s the type of thing that will provide you with a wide array of benefits in the long term.

Add more and more connections

One of the best things about LinkedIn is that it makes it super easy to add connections. The challenge here is adding connections that you really know. Just like other social sites, you will also receive random invites here as well. You want to have a meaningful online presence, so make sure that you get the right connections is ideal here. You can also invite people via LinkedIn as well, and you can send a personalized invitation. This will increase the chances of success as well.

Check who views your profile

Once you do that, connect with them. But remember, you want meaningful and professional connections. Random connections won’t really help you that much. But the right and proper connections can indeed do wonders. While you won’t connect with everyone out there, it’s safe to say that it will be a very good idea to check the profile views. It will give an accurate insight into who is interested in your content and so on. Stuff like this is super important and it can do wonders for sure.

Endorse people

Not only will this make your business show support for people that are meaningful, but it also offers exposure. Those persons that see your endorsement will most likely check your page and even connect with you. It can be very hard to acquire a lot of endorsements, and that’s exactly what you need to take into consideration in that perspective. Make sure that you offer endorsements to people that you know. And make them accurate as well as to the point. Once you do that the outcome can be nothing short of impressive every time.

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Enter groups

Make sure that you enter LinkedIn groups that are relevant to your industry. Once you enter this kind of groups it will be a lot easier to obtain the exposure and results that you expect. Another thing to note is that you can find lots of groups, so pick the best ones that really matter to you. It’s important to note that you can join up to 50 groups, so you really have to take that into consideration.

Once you create a LinkedIn profile, you need to be active. You have to create content as often as possible and you really need to deliver quality information to your readers and visitors. The more exposure and connections you get, the better it will be. So do try to take that into consideration and the results can indeed be among some of the best.

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How To Impress People

How to impress people is something that I have been trying to figure out my whole life. My twin brother and I grew up in a family of 7. Our family life was not always perfect, but there were also things I would never trade.

My dad was perhaps one of the best salespeople that I’ve ever met. He was also a professional gambler for more than 3 decades, so the man knew how to impress people. He also knew that living to impress people wasn’t the key to happiness. However, impressing people is often a side effect of being genuinely happy.

I lost my last 3 MMA fights, so there I was after last one sitting in the dressing room. I was upset, so my dad asked me why. My response was that I wasn’t happy with my less than impressive performance.

“Don’t worry about impressing people. You shouldn’t fight to impress anyone nor care what they say about it. If you have a dream chase it and don’t worry about impressing people while you do it. Most of them don’t know what you’re trying to do or why you’re trying to do it. You’re O’Mazing and I know it. Besides, it is easy to impress people; just show them who you are.”

My dad was not always the most supportive or outwardly loving people, so his words made a huge impact. Most of the reason why I was fighting was so I could impress him. He didn’t say amazing but went with my catchphrase at the time so I knew he cared.  He was gone not long after that, so I think about these words often. The more I think about them the more I get how much meaning was put behind them.

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Don’t Live To Impress People

You should never live to impress other people because it’s a waste of time and energy. You’ll be a lot happier if you live to impress yourself.

However, it is also important to have the ability to make a good first impression with people. Knowing how to impress people can really help you improve your life. So it’s my hope that these tips on how to impress people are easy-to-apply to your life.

Most people decide within seconds whether or not they’ll like, trust and respect you. Therefore, these tips on how to impress people should help with finding a job or fundraising for nonprofits.

10 tips on how to impress people you need to know

1. Put people at ease first:

It is always important to remember that people are animals that have DNA wired to anticipate danger. We also live in a dog eat dog world, so being mindful of that pays. I ‘m a rather large individual that can look angry very easily. I’m also an extrovert that never stops talking, so I try to always put people at ease through self-deprecating humour and being mindful of their cues and body language. Part of the reason why I dress down on most occasions is to be taken less like a threat.

If you’re approaching someone online you still have to put them at ease. Sure, their guard is not up as a result of a physical threat, but there is also danger online. So it makes sense to start things off slow when it comes to forming online relationships too.

Make it clear that you aren’t in a person’s inbox or social media thread just to get something from them. That is a great way to impress people online.

2. Do your share of helping others:

We all have our problems and issues to deal with and we all need help from time to time. That is why it is so important to help people when you are able to. It doesn’t really matter why someone needs help. Do your share of helping others, because it’s the right thing to do. Impressing others is just a benefit that comes along with doing some good deeds.

SPN was built to help others through our social media groups and nonprofit fundraising. We grew into a marketing company due to the way people appreciate our efforts to help others. Now, we can focus on helping others that are fighting disease or a going through a major life crisis. People like Rachael La Rue who is fighting for her life due to breast implant illness.

3. Avoid the drama:

We all have good days and we all also have our bad days too. The ability to consistently avoid the drama is one sure to impress people.

The ability to apply tact and make a point without making enemies is a great way to impress people.

No wants to hire the person that brings drama to the table. It doesn’t really matter what role they’re trying fill either. Most people are trying hard to avoid the drama, so keep that in mind. If you’re hiring an employee, dating someone, choosing friends would you choose the drama?

No one else does either, so try to avoid the drama.

People don’t want more drama in their lives and you can’t blame them. Therefore, it makes sense to limit the drama you share online or off.

4. Follow the Golden Rule:

Do you like people that treat you the way you want to be treated?

Yea, so do most other people. Following the Golden Rule makes it a lot easier to avoid the drama. It also helps others to avoid the drama, so it’s a total win-win way to impress people.

There is a huge reason why treating others the way you want to be treated is known around the world as the Golden Rule. Sadly, it’s not as common as it perhaps once was. Making it clear you follow the Golden Rule will also put people at ease and help you build trust. You should try to never break the Golden Rule.

5. Take ownership of faults and work to make amends:

We all really do have our bad days or moments and say things we probably shouldn’t. The option to take ownership of faults and work to make amends is also there for everyone. To truly make amends with someone you first need to take ownership of your faults or wrongdoings. This is very hard for a lot of people to do for a variety of reasons.

Develop the ability to take ownership of your faults and wrongdoings. Working to make amend is an awesome way to impress people. It is also one of the best ways to follow the Golden Rule. If you want people to apologize or make amends for the wrong they do provide the same courtesy to others.

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6. Keep it real while picking your battles:

Every wannabe influencer on social is talking about how to keep it real. Authentic is also perhaps the biggest buzzword of 2018 in a lot of circles. Part of me hates it because so many people just say the words without making a true effort. Part of me also really likes it because you should always be real with people.

However, keeping it really real all the time can cause a lot of problems with the whole “avoid the drama” tip. So it is important to pick your battles. Be mindful of cues and use a little tact when keeping it real. It makes life easier. If you can’t use tact and keep it real, then it’s time to move on.

Keep it real while picking your battles and you’re sure to impress people. You will also build a lot of self-respect if you can keep it real while following the golden rule.

7. Maintain your integrity no matter what:

At the end of your days, you can take nothing with you, but your integrity. Unless you lose it along the way.

How you made people feel and the positive impact you make will be your legacy. Maintaining your integrity no matter what will impress people. It will also help you build life-long friendships. Maintain your integrity and you’ll most likely make a positive impact on the world.

It’s hard not to like someone that follows the Golden Rule and tries to do the right thing. You can get a lot of grace from a lot of people for many faults if you act with integrity. Acting with integrity is a great way to influence people, but it will also bring long-term happiness.

It’s not always easy to act with integrity especially when it’s not the popular thing to do. Acting with integrity is not always the best way to impress people.  However, it’s always worth it because it’s always the right the thing to do.

8. Chase down dreams like a hungry lion chasing a gazelle:

Without passion, you lose hope and people without hope don’t impress people. The people that truly chase down dreams like a hungry lion chasing a gazelle impress people. They impress people because it takes a lot of passion most of us don’t use to truly chase down dreams.

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9. Stay positive

Having the ability to stay positive is one of my favourite ways to impress people. Everyone loves sunshine, puppies and rainbows due to the way they make us feel. Find the positive vibes in every earthquake and people will gravitate to you.

Your intentions don’t matter as much as your tone due to the way people avoid the drama. If you have something that needs to be said, then stay positive and find a good way to say it. It’s always worth the extra time to say it right. It also helps make a good impact on the world when you teach others to stay positive. Hang onto your positivity like you do your integrity and you’ll be alright.

10. Have confidence

This list could easily be named “10 tips on how to be sexy.” Have confidence because having true confidence is a surefire way to impress people. Life is always beating down on top of all of us. We can all find a million reasons to not have confidence.

Successful people tend to have confidence. They also tend to have confidence before they’re successful.

Final thoughts on how to impress people

It is important to know how to impress people, but your life can be so much more. People are drawn to those with an open mind and passion for other people. Don’t just strive to show how much drive and empathy you have for other people. Develop your drive to get things done to help other people. That drive will also help you get the most out of life.

Life is not meant to be spent chasing respect or love from other people. Spend your life by giving respect and love to people. You will find that giving people love and respect is the best way to get love and respect. Being mindful of how you make others feel will change your world. It will also change their world.

Life is too short and none of us knows when our time has come. We can get that one-way ticket to meet our maker at any time, so make sure keep that in mind. Knowing that life is short and unknown is not something you should worry about. It is something you should embrace to impress people enough for them to want to do the same. Live your life in a way that inspires others to have a little more drive and empathy. It will be a life well spent.

Warmest regards and thank you for reading. Please let me know in the comments or by sharing how you feel.

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About the author: Michael (Mike) O’Connor

Mike is the creator of the Service Professionals Network social media project. Mike is also a content writer for 2nd Chance Water Restoration and a marketing partner for Monat. Please feel free to contact mike anytime.